Nobody should have to worry about mixed signals when they’re in a relationship. It’s important to recognize red flags and game playing early on so that you don’t run the risk of experiencing crushing anxiety, frustration and heartbreak. NYC therapist Kimberly Hershenson says, “One should not have anxiety in a relationship…They should know where they stand and not always have to question things.” It may seem that game playing and mind games are all a part of the dating package, but the reality is that game playing, uncertainty and insecurity only cause unnecessary damage. There’s even a study to back this up!
Being lead on, dealing with vague responses, and manipulative love interests doesn’t have to be a part of dating! Read on to discover what you can actually do to create clear communication from both you and your potential bae.
Share Your Feelings
Allow yourself to be vulnerable with your partner! Being open with your feelings is a sign that you care about them and you trust them. Let your partner know what’s on your mind! If you’re madly in love, let them know! If you’re upset with them, don’t hold it in. The more you open up to your partner and share your feelings with them, the more you’ll develop a healthy, trusting relationship!
Express Interest in Spending Time Together
Let your love interest know that you want to spend time with them! When one date ends, make sure to set up a plan or a date to see each other again. If you’re in a long-term relationship or if you’re married, you can still let your partner know that you want to make time to be with them.
Include Your Partner in Events with Family and Friends
Including your partner in all aspects of your life will help your partner feel more secure with you and your relationship. Ask your partner to join you at happy hours, dinners with friends, and important family events! Not only will this add security in your relationship, it will help your feelings grow.
Call and Text Regularly
Regular communication is the cornerstone of creating security in a relationship. You should never have to feel as if you’re prying, chasing someone down, and begging for their attention. Make an effort to check in with your partner. Something as small as “Thinking of you!” will go a long way with the right bae.
