The Dementor
If you’re a fan of the Harry Potter series you’re already familiar with the term ‘Dementor.’ J.K. Rowling describes Dementors as evil creatures who suck the souls out of humans. Dementors take until there’s only a shell of a human left. They take pleasure in decay, sadness and despair. If you come in contact with a Dementor, you can be sure that your happiest memories will be ripped from you and all of your worst memories will come flooding back to you. Rowling created the Dementor based off of extremely negative people, and we can see why. We all know someone who can instantly suck the joy out of a room the minute they enter it.
Dementors have an innate ability to inject negativity into the most harmless situations. Over time, the Dementor can easily influence your own thoughts, turning everything into pessimism and doom.
The Envious
Envious individuals will never water their own grass because they’re convinced the grass is greener everywhere else. They rarely celebrate their own successes because it’s never enough for them. They constantly compare themselves and their accomplishments to others – which is extremely toxic. No matter who you are, there’s always someone doing better than you are. Focusing on another persons achievements ultimately sucks the joy out of everything. Spending time with an envious person means that eventually they’ll destroy anything good that happens for you.
The Self Absorbed
You can always tell when you’re around a self-absorbed person because you start to feel completely alone. The self-absorbed person has no true desire to connect with other people. Self-absorbed individuals simply see other people as a means to an end; an accessory to boost their self-esteem.
The Twisted
One of the most toxic and easiest types of people to spot are the twisted. These people have zero good intentions and take immense pleasure in the pain and misfortune of others. The twisted go out of their way to hurt, upset and use people. Luckily, you can almost always spot these individuals early on, saving you from a great deal of hurt.
The Victim
Initially it’s tough to spot a victim because you often find yourself emphasizing with them when they’re going through a tough time. Eventually, you’ll start to catch on to their patterns because they’re always going through something. How else can you spot a victim? Victims never take responsibility for their circumstances and approach every obstacle as a hopeless endeavor. Victims choose to suffer when faced with adversity, rather than use the opportunities to grow and learn. The next time you find yourself feeling weighed down by a victim or a victim mentality, think of this quote, “We cannot have a world where everyone is a victim. ‘I’m this way because my father made me this way. I’m this way because my husband made me this way.’ Yes, we are indeed formed by traumas that happen to us. But then you must take charge, you must take over, you are responsible.” – Camille Paglia
The Manipulator
Manipulators are great at acting like they’re your very best friend in the whole world. Manipulators pay attention to what you like, what makes you laugh and what makes you happy. Manipulators are also aware of what riles you up and what your weaknesses are – and they’ve fine tuned how to use all of those things against you. It may seem like the manipulator in your life is giving you something, but over time you’ll start to see just how much your manipulator has taken from you throughout the relationship.
The Temperamental
If you know someone who is unpredictable, quick to lash out, explode, projects their feelings onto you, and blames you for their upset – you’re dealing with a temperamental person. It can be difficult to remove a temperamental person from your life because their erratic, uncontrollable behavior makes you feel sorry for them. Unfortunately, the longer you keep a temperamental person in your life, the more they’ll use you as their emotional dumping ground.
